Remember this saying, “If not this, something better.” These words sound stupid and irritating when your relationship has just ended, but they are true for a reason. …and that any person worthy of being your partner would never leave you in the lurch like that. The best thing you can do is take it as a sign from the universe that it’s time to move on… Realize that we all have insecurities, and not all of us can understand how they impact us. Take a deep breath and tell yourself, “I will figure this out.” Don’t take on their issues and make them your own. So in order to cope, us girls need to pause and think. Their reaction is silence because it’s the easiest way to deal with the emotions that are flooding in, otherwise, they wouldn’t know what to do with them.
Guys are just wired differently, they don’t need the same support girls require after a breakup.
Guy friends skip the emotional-healing aspect of a breakup and head towards the binge-drinking, bar hopping, sloppy nights out instead, doing whatever it takes to get the breakup off his mind. Maybe they’ll have a quick, “we broke up” conversation with their bro’s and most likely call us ‘crazy’ and that they “just couldn’t do it anymore,” but it doesn’t go much deeper than that.
RADIO SILENCE AFTER A BREAKUP HOW TO
We find it comforting to vent to a friend about a breakup and crave advice on how to handle it, while guys do the exact opposite. If they were to reach out, it could only potentially hurt them more, so they remain, silent and safe in their uncomplicated mindset. Their lack of overthinking leads to silence because they don’t need any questions answered, they don’t want to know much more than what they already do. In their minds, it’s more general events: how the breakup happened and what the main reason for why it fell apart. In fact, they won’t put much effort into thinking about the breakup at all. They don’t spend their days over-analyzing every second we spent with them, wondering where it all went wrong, trying to pinpoint the exact moment they sensed the downfall. Guys handle breakups in their own ways and the product of their own healing is silencing us out. Sometimes it’s not wrapped in a pretty bow with two people who amicably say “this is for the better.” And most times, we just have to find it in our own ways.ĭo you think most people can easily admit their fears? Of course, we all would like our partner to care enough to tell us the truth no matter how much it hurts, but that’s almost never the case. Sometimes we don’t get all of the answers we’re seeking. Sometimes closure looks differently than we imagine it. But the truth is, guys, go silent after a break up for a reason, and here’s how to cope with it. Walking away from a relationship without even the slightest bit of closure can drive a girl crazy and cause a lot of sleepless nights. Why won’t he call? Can’t he just have a conversation to give me some peace of mind? What’s wrong with him? What did I do to deserve this? Did I really mean this little to him? These are the questions that echo in our heads after a breakup from hell.
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